One of my favorite pastimes as the Director of College Counseling at St. Luke’s School is dispelling college admissions myths. No, you don’t have to forgo four years of sleep and fun to be academically successful. Yes, you can fully recover from a “bad” test grade—and even a “bad” semester. No, your college choice will not determine whether you’re happy in life.
One particularly persistent myth is that you have one shot to get into your “dream” school. If you’re not accepted, that dream is over. To bust that myth, I offer you St. Luke's alumni who attend or recently attended Yale University. Each arrived at Yale via their own distinct path—directly from St. Luke’s and from different undergraduate institutions.
These alumni have different backgrounds, different passions, and vastly different personalities. Yet they share a belief: I can forge my own path.
Jonathan (Jon) Salamon graduated from St. Luke’s in 2010 and attended New York University as an undergraduate, and went on to earn a Master of Music Degree in Harpsichord Performance from Yale in 2017. He is currently a Doctor of Musical Arts student at Yale.
Khush Dhaliwal graduated from St. Luke’s in 2015. She headed directly to Yale where she is a biology major and a pre-med student.
SLS: What are you studying at Yale?
Khush: I'm a biology major. I haven't picked my focus yet, but I'm leaning towards biochemistry. I'm also a pre-medical student, so I'm also taking all the classes required by medical schools.
I want to go to medical school so that I can be a doctor someday. However, I'm not sure what kind of doctor I want to be. I've also recently become more and more interested in the field of public health so maybe my eventual career will involve research relating to that as well.
SLS: Why was Yale your school of choice?
Khush: When I visited the school, I loved the kindness and generosity of the students and teachers there. In fact, at one point during my visit, I ended up lost on "Science Hill," so I walked into the nearest building. As I was walking through the hallways, a professor came out from her office and asked me if I was lost and took time from her busy day to guide me to where I was supposed to go. I knew that even if half the professors cared as much about the students as she did, I would be in good hands. In that way, Yale reminds me a lot of St. Luke's. It feels like a home away from home because the people here are genuinely kind.
SLS: What's been the most challenging aspect of your studies?
Khush: I think finding a balance between my schoolwork, extracurriculars, and downtime has been challenging. When I first came to Yale's campus, there was so much I wanted to learn and so many groups and activities that I wanted to be a part of, but I eventually realized that I couldn't do everything and that was completely normal. I still have trouble finding that healthy balance, but I'm definitely much closer to it than I was when I first came here.
SLS: What advice would you give your 17-year-old school self?
Khush: I would tell my high school self to take some time out of my day to talk to my teachers about something other than schoolwork. The teachers at St. Luke's are wonderful people and they have so much to offer both inside and outside of the classroom.
SLS: What do you remember most about St. Luke's?
Khush: I think being at St. Luke's helped me develop habits of mind where I prioritized learning above all else. It's very easy to get caught up in trying to get good grades at the expense of all else, but having been at St. Luke's since the 5th grade, I learned to enjoy every subject and the process of reading textbooks, studying primary sources, working through challenging problems, and getting lost every now and then. I left St. Luke's with an appreciation for the gift of education and that has helped me immensely in times when I have been stressed here at Yale.
Max Mensching graduated from St. Luke’s in 2007 and attended Hobart College where he received a Bachelor of Arts in Architectural Studies with Minor in Studio Art. He went on to earn a Masters Degree in Architecture from Yale University in 2017. Max is currently an Integration Lead at WeWork.
SLS: You went from St. Luke’s to Hobart College. What led you there?
Max: I always had an interest in architecture. During high school it was a relatively new field to me and something that I thought I might be interested in pursuing. At that time, I was more focused on economics and studio art. Part of the reason I decided to attend Hobart is that
While I was at Hobart, I studied abroad in Copenhagen, Denmark for a semester. That had a major impact on me. It’s an incredible place to study because they have so many different styles all in one place. They also have modern, tasteful design that much of the rest of the world often tries to copy. They are essentially architectural trend-setters.
Max: I went straight from Hobart to accepting a job offer in an interactive technology lab at an architecture firm called Rockwell Group. I knew I wanted to get into the architectural industry and eventually wanted to pursue my masters, but first I wanted to work to gain some real-world experience. I just felt that people often rush into a masters program without having a real sense of what interests them. I’m so glad I worked in-between because it was during my three years at Rockwell Group that I found my passion for interactive design. Between my time at Hobart, my studies abroad and then several years of work—I had a much better idea of what I was looking for in a graduate program and for my professional career.”
Max: When I began exploring graduate schools, I was initially attracted to Yale because the Yale masters of architecture program is one of the best in the world. At Rockwell Group, I was an interaction designer where most of my work involved working with 3D renderings, virtual & augmented reality, robotics, and kinetics to build upon the ideas of other architects and take the user experience to another level. I knew I wanted to pursue more of this work and Yale has one of the best, most advanced fabrication and technology labs, so it was a no-brainer.
Max: The combination of technology, human interaction, and architecture is very compelling to me because of its potential for future growth and innovation. For example, through the use of augmented reality (AR) and and virtual reality (VR) it’s now easier than ever to immerse your clients in a designed space, or make changes to a 3D model in real-time to adjust to client feedback right then and there. Utilizing this technology allows for more rapid development of projects and gives us the ability to make changes to a design that we wouldn’t be able to make until it was actually built.
In my current position at WeWork, I’m working with a team of software developers to deploy a web-based platform that makes use of our own proprietary predictive spatial algorithm. It's a program that automatically designs the space for you. It’s super cool and something that I’ve been interested in being a part of for a long time. We’re having great success.
Max: I would tell myself, “Reach out and use every resource you have
Also, I would tell myself to remember how important math and computer science is for almost everything in today’s world. While I don’t write code on a daily basis at WeWork, it helps tremendously that I know enough about writing/reading code to have meaningful discussions with the software engineers and app developers. It helps to facilitate a mutual understanding between all parties involved while working with a team to produce a product.
Max: Mr. Yavenditti and Mr. Griffa are two teachers who really pushed me to be the best that I could be. They were always encouraging and helped me have the confidence and wherewithal to pursue my interests no matter how tough they seemed at the time. I remember being a member of the Robotics Club in Middle School which clearly had a hugely positive impact on my interests & professional career today and I’m thrilled to see that there is currently a dedicated tech lab at the school today!
Most of all, I remember the close-knit nature of the relationships between students, teachers, and classmates. It was an amazingly great place to learn and figure out who & where I wanted to be.
Brenda Meany graduated from St. Luke's in 2010 and earned a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration from Bucknell University. She is currently a Master of Environmental Management candidate at the Yale School of Forestry and Environmental Studies, specializing in Business and the Environment.
Brenda: I graduated from Bucknell University with a degree in business
Brenda: St. Luke’s set very high standards for the kind of community I looked for in choosing both Bucknell and Yale. The Yale School of Forestry and Environmental Studies is a very close-knit community of around 180 students per class from all over the world. I was attracted to the program as everyone is very active, passionate about their work, and genuinely really nice people to be around.
The unique aspect of graduate school is that it is in the first time in my life where I am around a group of people who all have a narrowed focus of interest, compared to high school or my undergraduate studies.
This past summer, I completed an internship on the Pepsico sustainability team through the Environmental Defense Fund Climate Corps Fellowship Program.
Brenda: In a nation where the acknowledgment of man-made climate change is not universal, creating new business as usual practices is still an uphill battle that requires interdisciplinary and multifaceted solutions. Environmental management involves an integration of various field of studies, including but not limited to, science, policy, law, and business management. Everyone at Yale is approaching the climate change issue from a different perspective, which makes for very interesting class discussions.
Brenda: Have fun! Envision a path for yourself now, but don’t take it too seriously. At the age of 17, I never would have imagined that I would be back in graduate school studying environmental issues. Although I did not realize it at the time, St. Luke’s gave me the personal development skills and academic foundation to be successful in whatever path I wanted to pursue. My studies at Bucknell led me to my job at ANN Inc. and if I had chosen another job, I might not have chosen to pursue a degree in corporate environmental management. Learning from your peers is just as important, if not more important, than what you learn from your teachers and professors. Take time to get to know the people around you and hear their life story, as you never know where it will lead you.
Brenda: I still look back at St. Luke’s as the most formative years of my life.
I still talk to my best friends from St. Luke’s every day and I know they will be a part of my life forever.
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