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title: Mr. Owen's Guide to Being Biracial
description: What is it like to be biracial? English teacher Tom Owens talks to teens about the complex and sometimes comical challenges of racial and ethnic identity.​
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# [Mr. Owen's Guide to Being Biracial](https://blog.stlukesct.org/guide-to-being-biracial)

 by [Tom Owen](https://blog.stlukesct.org/author/tom-owen-english-teaching-fellow)

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 **"I recently learned that you are biracial. Although you grew up in Connecticut, went to boarding school, and have attended, not one but two different types of regattas, you are in fact not as white as you would appear..." **

 

 

 

 

 

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